I guess you’re ok with the fact that every time you look into the eyes of those you’ve hurt and has forgiven you, and still see your offense there?

Perhaps what you said is true, but for now, I can’t see how “And I will not remember your sins” is the same as “And I will not remember your sins in a way that counts against you.”

Concerning the example you put forth, are you assuming a case where both are strangers?
Please do remember that reconciliation comes with a “re-”. It assumes a previous relationship.

I do not want to put extra burden on people, by telling them how forgiveness SHOULD be done, but I don’t think someone has forgiven me when they say they have, but would not have me in their midst because I remind them of the offense; though it has been forgiven.

And notice that I wrote “…the offense is still remembered.” instead of “…the incident is still remembered,” if you understand what I mean.