love for the long haul
I think the following sentence represents the core of Oswald Chambers’ thought. I wrote it down in my journal and wrote in the column next to it: “This is central to what I believe to be true!” So, here it is:
“Unless we can look the darkest, blackest fact full in the face without damaging God’s character, we do not yet know him.”
Coming to understand this is key in spiritual transformation and maturity. Connected to this are my thoughts on small groups, or home-groups as we call them in our church: small groups that gather on a regular basis, sometimes for worship and study, but mostly for the mutual spiritual support of friends and for prayer. I’ve been part of the same home-group now for about four years (I don’t lead it). There’s lots of material out there that suggests mixing up the groups every year to keep them fresh and focused on a study book or whatever. However, I’ve now come to the conclusion that love for the long haul has many more benefits. It is incredible, I must say, to be with the same people for over four years, watching them suffer, struggle, survive and even strengthen through all of it. It is amazing to see people grow over the years: not by becoming more successful, more pain-free or more cheerful (in a denial kind of way); but more resilient, patient and wise. I hereby testify that the people in the home-group I am a part of are truly learning how to “look the darkest, blackest fact full in the face without damaging God’s character.” They are an incredible source of encouragement for me.




Thanks, David, I feel the same way! I was lonesome, fearful, sure noone could appreciate me or see anything good in me, but boy, have I been surprised! You guys have loved me back and forward. It is awesome to feel such trust and freedom once we find those we can truly share all our crap with. And God is there with us to help us all learn and support one another. I am so blessed to be your friend and also all the other ones there! Thanks for pointing me to light and freedom!
After reading this yesterday, I tried three different times to post something. Funny for me to feel strongly and not have the words. How do I define a group, that love and support and challenge one another. We have wept and prayed together, and we laugh. Cuz life is like that,and God is like that. It can get messy. The objective is not to be the best versions of ourselves.But oh the freedom and peace when you arent trying to impress, but learning more of who God is, and who we are in Him.