True story. A pastor who I trusted as my mentor once asked what my problem was with him… while he was physically poking my chest with his finger! Finally exhausted by his intimidation tactics, I said, “I find you very overpowering. Others do too. And I don’t think that’s fair because you send the message that you don’t respect others or their opinions. It has the effect of silencing people into submission.” His response was, “That’s because I am a strong leader and you are weak.”
I have experienced this many times. This was the exasperated articulation of a methodical way of being a leader which was finally expressed in a moment of frustration. The cat was out of the bag. And once it is out of the bag it is impossible to get it back in. It’s time to part ways.
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