Listen in on Sarah breaking up with her church

"Sarah Breaks Up With Her Church" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

“Sarah Breaks Up With Her Church” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

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I know many people who have been through this situation. I know many people who are facing this. I know many other people who should.

It’s not always this poignant. Sometimes these breakups are ugly. Even nasty.

In this case Sarah realizes that the only way she is going to grow and be fully herself is if she leaves the church. She’s beginning her arduous but necessary journey of deconstruction.

I drew 59 images and wrote 59 meditations of just such a woman, named Sophia, who is a parable of my soul’s journey away from the church and represents people like Sarah and possibly even you! I’m very proud of it. Order your copy today!

I moderate a very vibrant online community of people just like Sarah called The Lasting Supper. Come join us!


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5 Responses

  1. Deconstruction is such an important process. Unfortunately deconstructionism has received a bad rap amongst christians, analytical philosophers and anyone else who likes absolutes, but what many of these fail to grasp is what it really means to deconstruct. To deconstruct is to take something apart, a belief, a institution, a way of living, or even a building. This process (I feel it is important to note) is not a destructive process like the demolition of a building but rather the careful and observatory process of removing the building piece by piece. It recognizes what was put into to the original structure, thought, belief or religion as it is separated from it. To deconstruct is not to destroy or mutilate but rather to open something up to the possibility of possibilities. It is to allow that structure, that thought, that belief, that religion to be free of all that is set upon it and all that hinders it from becoming.

    Way to go Sarah, way to go! The journey will not be an easy one, but it will be rewarding.

  2. Mike Reed says:

    So in yur 59 meditations, you named your character Sophia, after the false goddes of wisomd of the feminist movement. I think that says a lot.
    So I am curious, is your catroon here suppose to initmate that as a Chistian grows, they necessarily outgrow their church? A church is just for the immature people? I suspect Paul, as well as Jesus and others, would disagree. Now, yeah, if there are real issues, doctrinal error, worldliness, then you might need to depart, but it should be with the intent of finding a new church.
    The church is the body of Christ and He is the head. A local, New Testament church is vital not just for growth, but continued maturity.

  3. David says:

    Mike: As one can assume, Sarah’s experience isn’t everyone’s. In fact, many of the responses I got when I posted this on Facebook was that their church never shed a tear when they left. Also, I believe there are good churches where people are allowed to grow, although I’ve never experienced one yet. Sophia, by the way, is rooted in the Hebraic tradition as is found in Proverbs.

  4. Caryn LeMur says:

    Mike: I am ok with your need to be at a local assembly. However, let’s not overlook the balanced approach of the New Testament towards local assemblies/churches:

    1. Good church, yet God calls good men away from it. It was a good church in Antioch, but the Spirit of God called Barnabas and Saul out of the local church – with fantastic results [Acts 13 – 14].

    2. Good church and bad leader that must be publically rebuked. It was a misguided church that needed its god-appointed leader rebuked for refusing to associate with the Gentiles – and so, Paul rebuked Peter publically even though Paul was a subordinate apostle [Gal 2].

    3. Messed up church with an evil subordinate church leader. One man appears to be running and ruining the local church – and John the Apostle planned to discuss this item with the church body [III John ].

    4. Dead churches mentioned with the first generation of Christianity by Jesus. What of the churches mentioned in the Book of Revelations that Jesus Himself rebuked or applauded – I count seven churches with more than one about to become simple dead organization [Chapters 2 and 3].

    I offer that we should “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” [Proverbs 13:20]

    A person must hear the Spirit of God – for that person may be like Barnabas, and called out of the local assembly into a wandering ministry of sharing Christ, strengthening others, and/or following the Spirit from place to place.

    A person must be willing to publically (or perhaps privately) rebuke church leaders that refuse to associate with other ‘unclean’ believers: Catholic, Jewish reborn, Non-charismatic, Charismatic, Evangelical, gay accepting, non-divorce-accepting, and so forth. The “jewish’ believer must not withdraw from the ‘gentile’ believer.

    A person must be willing to speak against a single man (or woman) that is destroying a church via gossip, and refusing to welcome traveling elders in Christ.

    A person must become aware of when their church is ‘about to die’ and the presence of Christ will no longer be there… if you can change it, wonderful! But if not, it is better to walk with wise and become wiser, than remain a companion of fools, and suffer for it.

    So then, Mike, I offer to you to reconsider the over-used concept of church assembly being the highest priority… to rethink the command “Forsake not the assembling of yourselves together”… and to see that assembly and command in light of the balanced approach the New Testament shows very plainly.