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When I critique abusive speech and behavior… which is something I do a lot because it happens a lot… it always surprises me when I get criticized for being a bully myself for doing it. I got that several times yesterday when I posted this cartoon and post about attempts to silence people. Statements like, “You’re no different than the people you’re criticizing!”
No! Not true!
Why are so many people uncomfortable with conflict? Well, to be fair, I’m uncomfortable with conflict. I hate it and try to avoid it all costs. So, I guess the question really is, why are people not willing to get uncomfortable in order to protect the rights and freedoms of others?
Yes! That’s the question!
When I post a strong statement about providing safe places for people to share their experiences, to be heard and even believed, the furious correspondences I get overwhelm me. I’ve been accused of being…
- a bully
I could go on, but you get my point. It never stops. The condescension is rampant. But, isn’t it interesting that these messages are from the bullies and their friends and supporters? I do get far more emails that are encouraging and appreciative, but they’re just from victims and survivors. However, that doesn’t mean anything because they aren’t important. Apparently.
Just remember: it’s not bullying to call a bully a bully. It’s not abusive to say to an abusive person that they’re abusive. It’s not immoral to march against injustice. It’s not unscrupulous to be intolerant of exploitation. It’s not unethical to speak against the suppression of free speech. It’s not wrong to let someone share their experiences. It’s not inappropriate to believe them.
Don’t let the bullies win!
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