if you haven’t made this important calculation yet, you should

"Calculations" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

“Calculations” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

[Prints available HERE along with all my art!]

I do remember very significant points in my life, knowing the risks and costs, where I had to make the very specific decision to be true. They were always very scary times for me because I don’t like loss. I don’t like pain. I guess for me I was more afraid of the consequences of not being true than I was of the consequences of living a lie.

But I always recommend that people wait until they are ready to take this step. It shouldn’t be done without forethought, without making the calculations, because for some of us the risks and costs are too severe, sudden, and great.

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6 Responses

  1. Sharmini says:

    for me, the fear is that the ‘true friends’ category will be entirely empty.

  2. Tom Wilson says:

    I now believe that for some of us the only time we will find true friends is when we are true to ourselves. I have one person who has always been my friend since kindergarten as a matter of fact. However, I feel lucky, because I have a very close extended family and I was the only one who was Fundamentalist Christian. So once I left church they were all very supportive and our close relationship didn’t change much. For me finding real friends since I left religion behind finding more true friends has been a long slow process. I think that some of that is, because I let other people tell me for so long who I was supposed to that I didn’t even know the real me. At 51 years-old I’m still discovering who I am. My entire world view is still experiencing radical change. Though I will say that all my relationships have improved significantly, and I’ve gotten rid of all the people who were never my real friends in the first place, which IMO is a good thing. I suspect that as I continue down this path I will be meeting new people whom will become great friends.

  3. It is a slow process. But more natural perhaps.

  4. I understand that fear sharmini

  5. xuemei says:

    Hallelujah! It has been a lonely and dark journey, but true friends remain. So true.

  6. Kathy says:

    I’ve lost so many friendships recently. Makes me sad.