The Church is Not Safe for Kids

"Not Safe for Kids" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

“Not Safe for Kids” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Last week I was contacted by a mother. She wanted to know if I would help publicize their story.

It’s about her daughter who had been raped by her biological father since she was a very young girl. The girl confided in her church leaders at the McMinnville Church of the Nazarene. The church claims they mistakenly thought she was talking about her stepfather, who worked for the church, and couldn’t believe he would do such a thing.

So they failed to report it. This violates Oregon law as well as very explicit church directives.

Eventually, the girl told her mother and stepfather. They have since filed a lawsuit. The girl is now just 12 years old.

Please read the story here and here.

The point of the cartoon is clear: the church is not safe for children. We should know this by now.

This is not to say the church can not be safe for children. The point of the cartoon is that we should not assume it is! It may not be safe precisely because it claims to be safe and is presumed to be safe. But that claim and that presumption is exactly what should make us investigate if it is really safe or not.

This reminds me of how diligent I need to be, as well as all the members, with how safe The Lasting Supper is as an online community. We can’t presume it is. We have to all be diligent to make it and keep it so.

There are so many warnings and so many laws and so many policies because the church has proven that it can’t be trusted with children.

We post warning signs because the threat is real, not because it is imaginary or unlikely.

But, obviously, the warnings, the laws, and the policies are not enough. Even with all these in place, the church leaders, we can safely assume, chose to not report it in order to protect itself and its friends.

As a result, it’s made it worse for everybody involved, not least of which is the girl.

What can we do? I’m not saying the church needs to be abolished or that kids shouldn’t attend. But even greater measures must be taken to protect our children, including digging to the insidious roots of the problem of sexual abuse, the abuse of the children, and the abuse of power by the church.

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9 Responses

  1. Nerys Johnson says:

    I think you’ve hit the nail on the head, and we have to stop our presumptions ie assuming because…

  2. Chelly says:

    David, thank you for sharing this story. As a Portlander, a child abuse victim and church follower I’m deeply saddened and embarrassed by the actions of the church leaders in this story.
    The poor girl, she deserved adults to do the right thing, immediately. Thank goodness her mom believed her! Even better that her mom is holding the church accountable for their inaction.

  3. Thanks Chelly. We all must work together to make the world a safer place.

  4. Jarred H says:

    The church claims they mistakenly thought she was talking about her stepfather, who worked for the church, and couldn’t believe he would do such a thing.

    Okay, the confusion over who the rapist was aside, the tail end of this statement makes it clear that this is yet another case of a church who don’t understand how rapists and abusers operate. Because tons of rapists and abusers are the kind of people who others “believe they wouldn’t do such a thing.” Rapist and abusers go to great lengths to look like that kind of person who others can safely “believe they wouldn’t do such at thing.”

    You’re absolutely right that The Church is not safe for kids. That’s partly because, by and large, The Church has failed to learn important things like the way rapists and other abusers operate.

  5. Kris799 says:

    My cousin was.repeatedly raped by the father of the children (also fellow church member” for whom she was babysitting, and ultimately impregnated, when she was 12. My aunt and uncle made no attempts to get this guy who ended.up leaving the country. And they actually were.shocked because that someone from their church would do such a thing. Church doesn’t magically make people not abuse, and as we are finding out, it is a safe place for the abusers.

  6. Terrible story Kris799. Thanks for sharing it. Your last sentence is so right on.

  7. Tyrone says:

    The church has always been incorrect. Sun is god and god is Sun. Although it’s broken English the English language in regards to Astronomy and the relationship between our star and its dependants is also broken English.

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