Cavemen and Complementarianism

"Cavemen & Complementarianism" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward
“Cavemen & Complementarianism” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward


“Complementarianism is a theological view held by some in Christianity, Judaism, and Islam, that men and women have different but complementary roles and responsibilities in marriage, family life, religious leadership, and elsewhere. The word “complementary” and its cognates are currently used to denote this view.” (Wikipedia)

Men invented this theology.



3 Replies to “Cavemen and Complementarianism”

  1. I have thought about this picture for several days. My first reaction was where are these brutes that demand sex no matter the circumstance? Mostly, I can only think of the stuff that gets publicized like people who drug women and take advantage of them.

    My second thought was, how is it these guys are so naked and ugly. Do they have no one to even make them a loin cloth. I mean even Tarzan had that.

    Then I looked up complementarian and the wiki article. Sorry, it kind of reads like someone anti-Christian just learned how to make a wiki-pedia page. A bit of a hodge-podge, wrong about several things, a defence of female clergy, and Islam of all things gets off with one cursory sentence. No mention by the way of Hinduism and Confucianism, which are also highly hierarchical, on many different levels. They consider thus basic to society.

    Then I thought about how this applies to me, having grown up in post modern times. My mother stayed home and my father was wonderful. The family benefitted economically from the post-war boom, as Germany rebuilt. My mother-in-law had many children, had to work, raised very hard-working daughters and sons, fulfilled herself with additional hobbies. My husband is somewhat haunted by her demands and power. He is still having to do a ton of stuff for her, especially, since he always did because the father was an amputee.

    For me, it was such, that my husband and I never quite grasped each other’s ideas of what family is supposed to be like. I also benefitted from a good education, but running a clinic in the country, running children by car here and there, involving myself in church and music, was about all I could do. And my whole adult woman life, you have this question in your head what you should finally be when you grow up. In fact, what I have been doing is quite enough. I think the younger generation, too, especially with so many coming from”broken” homes, are looking for stability. Economically, times are tough. Relationship-wise they may not have grown up with wise counsel and realistic expectations or hopes. Women, above all, if they want children whom they can give the best environment, need to find a male on whom they can rely. That does not mean that they can’t work, but it means that they will not be stretched to the breaking point. There is some very tangible stuff, here, that needs consideration.

  2. I appreciate what you say here Brigette. BTW they’re cavemen. Neanderthal men were hairy and naked apparently. The only thing I would augment in what you said is, when you said “women… need to find a male on whom they can rely”, I would say “need to find someone, or a community, on whom they can rely”… not necessarily male.

  3. Women still breed with men, and children still deserve a father wherever possible. The biology of Neanderthal and current findings are quite interesting. My sister-in-law come from the Neanderthal region, where the going joke is that the people from that valley (Tal), quite amazingly resemble the Neanderthal’s still. 🙂

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