A pastor preaches and imagines a great reception to his sermon as people carry him on their shoulders. Meanwhile the congregation is thinking about other things, like sports, wine, breakfast, coffee, reading, taking a walk, sex, gambling, sleeping, and more.
One of the most honest things we can do is actually observe what is actually happening... not only around us but within us.
And whatever it is, it's okay.
We do not judge and condemn ourselves for being human.