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A TOXIC KIND OF LOVE
“God loves you just the way you are, but he loves you too much to leave you that way.”
That never made me feel good.
I could never figure out why.
Now I can.
Because of a simple analogy.
What if I said to my daughter, “Casile, I love you just the way you are, but I love you too much to leave you that way”?
That should make it clear.
When your spirit is so constantly demoralized, threats sound like promises.
Hopefully Casile was raised in such a way that if I said to her, “I love you just the way you are, but I love you too much to leave you that way”, what she would actually hear is:
Can you see how hurtful, harmful and loveless it is?
But, like I said, in a culture where we believe that…
we are bad, sinners, broken, unworthy, and hopeless;
we need to change;
we need some kind of divine intervention to save us from who we are…
… then yes maybe this makes sense.
But this isn’t love.
This isn’t love.