
This happens all the time in our community. It happens to all of us. I think this week alone I've had three different people tell me they're feeling disconnected from the community. It happens to me, even when I'm probably the most involved. Sometimes I have to chuckle because for some of us it is self-inflicted. We are feeling a little insecure. We pull back a little bit. We notice we don't feel as connected as before, which feeds our insecurities, which motivates us to pull back a little further, which only confirms our suspicions that we don't belong. Last week I was talking with one person who said they don't feel connected to the community. I asked him, "
Do you think it would help if you came?" He laughed, realizing the silliness of his position. Another young lady was complaining that nobody spoke to her on Sunday mornings. I tried to explain that almost everyone else is feeling the same way. I told her that I would guarantee that if she started saying hi to people, that they would start saying hi back. Initiate! The gravitational pull of the human race is towards either the worst: alienation and isolation; or the best: superficial networks. There is usually an easy solution to this problem: go to some of the community events. Get involved. Invite people over. In fact, I encourage people to invite themselves over! Lisa and I do it: "
Hi! We're just coming back from town and have a bottle of wine. We're wondering if we can just drop in. We miss you guys!" It almost always works.
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