A disciple is someone who emulates his or her master. When I think of Jesus I think of how gracious he was, patient and inclusive. I think of how radical his love was, as well as his sense of justice.
Sure he upset people. But it was because of these things.
I used to think bad theology inspired bad behavior. Now I think we create bad theology to endorse bad behavior. So Jesus went after hypocritical behavior first rather than bad theology. He pointed to the fruit, thereby exposing the root. This is what really upset the religious.
Yes, there are consequences to being a disciple. It should appear in our behavior.