DON'T LET OTHERS SHAME YOU!
I've argued before that shame is one of the church's most powerful weapon to control people.
Not just churches! Anyone with any power might use shame to pressure people into conforming to their wishes.
It's so interesting to me how commonplace and normalized shaming is.
When I've written about the church using shame to control people before, so many people defended it because they think people doing what they're told is more important than how you get them to do it.
In other words, the end justifies the means.
If you don't know much about shame and its use, please research it.
If you recognize that shame is being used on you, address it!
It's in your power to do that.
Like this woman in the cartoon: take care of yourself.