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You've heard the saying of Jesus, ‚ÄúDo not cast your pearls before swine.‚Äù
The basic meaning of that is don't share yourself‚ your truth‚ your life‚ anything of yourself that is of value to you, important to you‚ with those who won't appreciate it.
They'll trample it underfoot. Not necessarily out of anger. Pigs just trample pearls underfoot because pearls mean nothing to them. They're worthless to them. They just don't care.
You have the right to not share what is valuable about yourself with others who won't get it, won't understand it, won't appreciate it, and won't value it. You do not need to give yourself away to those for whom it means nothing. You don't have to reveal all of the real you, the true you, to people who won't care, or will care but in the wrong way, or who will hurt you for it. Not even superheroes do that!
Jesus was an expert at this. It infuriated the religious leaders because they always wanted to trap him. That was the main motivation of their questions. Not curiosity or a desire to know.
Now, I cast my pearls out into the world every day. Some people are sweet and some are swine. But that's how I roll. However, when it comes to more immediate relationships, I apply this principle:
When you train your mind, heart and ear to discern, you can tell when someone's asking you out of a malicious desire to catch you OR out of a sincere desire to know.
1. Withhold your pearls from the first. No explanation needed. That's just another pearl that means nothing to them.
2. Give your pearls to the second. They will appreciate their value and treasure them as gifts.
How can we tell the difference between a swine and a sweetie? Good question! Sometimes we don't know until it's too late. So I have no test-proven method of telling the difference. In fact, sometimes people can be both and switch from sweetie to swine in a second! But, when it comes to sharing yourself with others, here are a few pointers to apply to keep yourself from being trodden underfoot.
I hope this helps. It can be lonely out there. We all have pearls and it's nice to find someone to share them with. I hope you find someone to share them with!(If you're looking for a safe place to share your pearls... in a group or with me, check this out!)