Lisa and I have been married a long time.
It took us a while to learn a very important lesson:
She needs to trust me with my own spiritual journey.
I need to trust her with hers.
This is the only way a healthy marriage can work.
If you're going through deconstruction (changing your beliefs, etcetera), both of you have to give space to the other out of respect for their own ability to find their own way.
If you are on different pages... say one is more conservative and the other more liberal... all you can do is trust them with that choice.
Otherwise, you end up either judging or disdaining one another.
Do you know what I think the number one killer of a marriage is?
Don't go there. Work it out. Figure out how to restore and maintain respect for and trust in one another.
Because if change is a given, then trust is a must.