How about in the future, when we have some hot issue to discuss, we use these terms of engagement on how to fight fair: 1. Be respectful. Don t name-call, use sarcasm, or belittle others. Example: I believe there s a God because he talks to me! I always thought you were a stupid idiot! 2. Focus on the issue. Don t get personal. Maintain clarity on your view. Example: If there is a God, why is there so much evil in the world? Ya, well, you re Satan! That s why, you stupid idiot! 3. Stay on point. Don t change the subject until you ve dealt with the original issue. Example: I don t like the church and refuse to attend such an abusive institution! Ya, well, you weren t breast-fed enough! Let's talk about that, you stupid idiot! 4. Wait before writing. Don t respond when angry. Cool off first. Present a reasoned response. It can be impassioned, but make sure it is not a knee-jerk reaction. Example: I love Jesus because he s my personal Lord and Savior! Oh is that right? Then why every time you open your mouth, I smell manure, you stupid idiot! 5. Try to understand what others are saying. Don t write people off, but try to understand where they are coming from. Walk in their shoes for a minute. Example: God is your imaginary friend! Well, men are from Mars; women are from Venus. But you might as well be speaking from Uranus, you stupid idiot! 6. If you don t understand what they are saying, ask for clarity. Don t assume you know what they mean. Example: I don t believe there s a literal Hell. That s why I think you re going to hell! Ya, well, I must already be there because I m talking to you, you stupid idiot! 7. Even if we argue ideas, try to respect and appreciate other people, even love them. Example: I ll pray for you, that you will get saved and go to church. Ya, well, I pray that you get drilled through the head with a meteor, you brainless moron! Anyway, those are just a few rules to help us fight fair and to encourage everyone to stay in the game. No head-butting! Check out this site for a humorous mixture of advice: Check out this site for some humorous advice on debating fair!