I hate a pat answer. It accomplishes nothing except satisfaction in the small, unimaginative heart of its giver. I received some pat answers this week and they reminded me of Job's comforters word for word.
As you grow older you hopefully grow wiser, and you begin to understand from your own honest self-analysis that our problems are greater, more complex and more mysterious than any answer.
We begin to understand that the overwhelming problem, the looming question, exists to expand the dimensions of the our life. We do what we can to accompany the person and show compassion, but we must respect where they are and not bathe them in milk.
Compassion = to suffer with.
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