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"What's Your Label?" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward BUY THIS CARTOON IN MY NAKEDPASTOR SHOP ON ETSY I talk a lot about deconstruction. What is deconstruction? It may be a significant change of long-held beliefs, perhaps leaving the church, and can even culminate in the loss of faith. It‚Äôs called "deconstruction" because of the demolition, erosion, and breakdown of beliefs. Often I'm instructed that one shouldn't just deconstruct. One should reconstruct after the deconstruction.  I've always disagreed with this. Why? Because a key element in deconstruction is the discarding of labels, of being pigeon-holed and categorized.  You have to believe...

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"I Don't Believe All This Anymore" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward Here we see a family going through deconstruction. Each one alone. Why not do it together? For example, with your spouse: I keep saying communication is key. Communication is critical.Communication is the cure. Here's some advice about communicating about your deconstruction with your loved ones: 1. Arrange a time.2. Promise you'll try to not get defensive. Just speak descriptively.3. Promise you'll try to not get judgmental. Just listen without evaluating.4. Have drinks while you talk (Lisa and I have scotch and Bailey's nights‚).5. Settle in for a long talk.6. If...

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"Demons and Deconstruction" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward When I was deconstructing, those around me were very confused. I can't blame them because I was too. Its impossible for most people to reject your beliefs without making you feel like they're rejecting you. Deconstruction... the changing of life-long hard-held beliefs... the loss of faith... these are confusing processes. We don't know how to describe it because we haven't acquired a language for it yet. They know exactly how to describe it because they are still in our previous religious culture that offers a whole list of explanations. One of the...

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"Is there Life After Death" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward BUY MY CARTOONS & ART ON ETSY Yes, there is life after deconstruction. I do remember lying in bed in a cold sweat terrified of the thought that there wasn‚Äôt a heaven or an afterlife. It caused me to realize the absolute chokehold that belief has on people.  This is not to say there isn‚Äôt an afterlife. I‚Äôm talking about the dark dread that overcomes us when that belief is questioned. But there is hope! Changing our minds is to renew our minds and to experience life all over again....

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"When Deconstruction Hits You Hard" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward In fact, I think all deconstruction hits you hard. I've known some people who revert back to before deconstruction started to set in full force. It was too scary so they retreated. They pretend not to know the truth from then on. It's too hard!Because, it's not easy changing your beliefs, losing your faith, altering your relationship to the church, etcetera.It's very difficult to change your mind and therefore your relationships.It's scary because it costs a lot.On top of the personal terror of questioning and doubting their beliefs, many people...

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