When we say we are inclusive, we are saying we are the center and we will let you in.
When we say we allow or permit, we are saying that we are the ones who hold the power to determine behavior.
True, the church used to be the most powerful institution in the world. Perhaps some would argue that it still is today. But it shouldn't be.
Because of its inappropriate use of power, many are leaving
It is in the spirit of Jesus to undermine power and the language it uses.