WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF DECONSTRUCTION?

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WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF DECONSTRUCTION?

losing his religion cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward

A man on a couch depressed. His wife on the phone: “Sorry, he can’t come to the phone right now. He’s losing his religion.”

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF DECONSTRUCTION?

You deconstruct uniquely.
This is why I promote spiritual independence.
You do you!

Here are symptoms you may experience.

MENTAL:

Deconstruction usually starts in the mind, often initiated by trauma: an event that provokes doubt. It can be as simple as questioning the Bible, or the loss of a loved one that makes you question a caring God, or frustrating experiences in the Church or with religious people. A Doubt Virus lodges in your fevered brain that spreads, overtaking your certainty. Confusion sets in.

EMOTIONAL:

When you’re immersed in a religious culture but start questioning it, you experience withdrawal and grief. You may feel a mixture of sadness at the prospect of loss and elation at the hope of freedom. Confusion creates stress that you feel in our body. You’re stuck between sadness and joy, conflict and peace, control and freedom. You count the cost of taking the next step because the risk feels high.

SOCIAL:

You’ve become suspicious about submitting to authority and believing ideas unquestionably. You know you’re in for a bumpy ride as you contemplate breaking away from the Church, its leaders, and your peer group (family and friends), all of whom perpetually monitor you. You know if you take a stand for your spiritual independence you may find yourself all alone. Your social life will change.

But have hope!

Because I know you will progress beyond confusion to peace of mind.
You will finally feel authentically you, happy and free.
And you’ll learn how to navigate your present relationships and form new and healthier ones.


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