Your Independence is Necessary for Wholeness

"Kiss of Devotion" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward Even though this cartoon humorously describes the history of the kiss of devotion, it also shows the elevation of devotion to a certain person. Understand? I mean, we start off mildly perhaps, adjoining ourselves to a person because we admire them so much. Then, eventually, having sacrificed our own independence somewhere along the way, we find ourselves finally kissing his ass. I've discovered that the best way to be in healthy relationships is to possess a robust personal independence. Even spiritual independence! This way you prevent yourself from entering into toxically dependent or codependent relationships, and you can mutually enter into healthy interdependent ones. But a healthy, functioning relationship always requires that each party possesses a healthy, personal independence. (If you want help doing that, talk with me.)
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