Deconstruction without Reconstruction

BUY THIS CARTOON IN MY NAKEDPASTOR SHOP ON ETSY I talk a lot about deconstruction. What is deconstruction? It may be a significant change of long-held beliefs, perhaps leaving the church, and can even culminate in the loss of faith. It’s called “deconstruction” because of the demolition, erosion, and breakdown…

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Marriage & Deconstruction: Communication is Key!

Here we see a family going through deconstruction. Each one alone. Why not do it together? For example, with your spouse: I keep saying communication is key. Communication is critical.Communication is the cure. Here’s some advice about communicating about your deconstruction with your loved ones: 1. Arrange a time.2. Promise you’ll…

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Money is Spiritual Course & eBook!

Guys, I’m very happy to announce the opening of my new course and eBook, “Money is Spiritual”. This is particularly for people who have religious, spiritual, personal and emotional hangups about money. This is also for creative people and other entrepreneurs who can’t get over their money issues in order…

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"Bullies are not Safe" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Online Community and Bullies

SHOP FOR MY CARTOONS & ART ONLINE COMMUNITY AND BULLIES: A STORY & APOLOGY I want to share with you what I think is the worst mistake I ever made in facilitating an online community. Other online community facilitators and moderators out there: TAKE HEED! My mistake was I tolerated…

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"Done with Church" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

11 Reasons Why It’s So Hard to Leave the Church

BUY A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON 11 Reasons Why It’s So Hard to Leave the Church (*** I originally wrote this for my beloved online community, The Lasting Supper. They found it very helpful. I hope you do too. If you want the friendship and support The Lasting Supper provides,…

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"Suffer in Silence" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Why Do We Hide Our Pain?

BUY A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON Why do we hide our pain? Here are just a few: 1. We are ashamed because we think it makes us look weak. 2. We don’t want people to think we aren’t getting over it fast enough. 3. We don’t want to be a…

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"Deconstruction and Marriage" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

The Deconstruction of Your Beliefs and Your Marriage

BUY A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON The Deconstruction of Your Beliefs and Your Marriage One of the most difficult challenges I ever undertook was to deconstruct my beliefs and stay married. Honestly, there were many times Lisa and I didn’t think we were going to make it. But we did.…

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"No Agenda" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Advice on Making Friends after Leaving the Church

GET A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON When we leave the church, one of the hardest things to do is build new relationships. Because you will probably lose most if not all of the friends you had. I’ve been through it, learned a lot, and want to share some advice with…

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"Find Lose" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Finding Yourself but Losing Your Friends

I was fortunate to find churches in which I felt I had room to change and grow. However, inevitably, I discovered that I would change and grow beyond the box of their comfort zone. When you change, so do your relationships. You may lose friends. You may even lose family.…

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