Driving Away from Church

"Driving Away from Church" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward
“Driving Away from Church” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

I know so many people who have done this.

In fact, I remember the last time I drove away from church for the last time.

There were times I would drive back there… to the church I once pastored… and park my car and look at the church from a distance.

So many memories! Good and bad.

But my time there was done.

How many of you have driven away from one life towards another one that looks completely different?

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5 Replies to “Driving Away from Church”

  1. This is me. I never imagined there would be such a day. The getting to that day was a tremendously difficult process, largely because I resisted it (really, fought it tooth-and-claw) for so long. The more time passes – a little over a year now – the more I see it for what it is, things to which I was blind while in it, the more it is clear I cannot go back. I don’t miss the cognitive dissonance, frustration, and pain. No – don’t miss that a bit. But it is still raw; make no mistake: it was a bloody brutal thing and it has left its wounds. To be sure, I feel more honest, more clear. But I still hurt.

  2. I just found your site. There are many wounded people in this world.

    A friend and I were talking and he gave me some insight on Ephesians 4:
    “And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.”
    ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:11-16‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    Maybe if we realize the church isn’t that building and that we individually are all of those 5 ministries as Jesus’ Spirit is in us, perhaps we might actually be the Church. When my friend and I prayed for a 95 year old veteran at the VA facility yesterday we were probably shepherds and evangelists. We were being the Church. We never met the man before but we know a lot more about him now. He is a believer so we were able to build him up in love. He was touched by our prayers and reciprocated with a prayer for us. We can be the Church whenever and wherever we are. We do have to listen.

    If we seek to help those who have left as much as we try to bring in new members we would be more like the Church as exemplified in the Acts of the Apostles.

  3. I remember pulling into the parking lot late one night soon after leaving. I think I was trying to make sense of it all by sitting there and staring at the visible facade. It still doesn’t make sense, but now the raw emotions have subsided and I’m at peace.

  4. Thanks Alexander. Yes, very raw emotions.

    Del: This cartoon’s about Sarah’s experience and feelings. How she or the church can fix it is another issue. Right? So many people identify with her. Thanks for your comment.

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