"Suffer Children!" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

The Church’s Abuse of its Most Vulnerable

GET THIS PRINT The church has a serious problem. I hope my naysayers who constantly harp, “You’re too negative. Abuse in the church is very rare and you’re highlighting isolated incidents!”, will shut their mouths now. It’s sad that the church, who says it embraces the weak, who preaches that…

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"Gaslighting Accusers" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

The Fine Art of Gaslighting Accusers

SEE THIS CARTOON IN MY SHOP Wikipedia defines gaslighting as “a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, hoping to make them question their own memory, perception, and sanity.” I’ve done it. I’ve been the victim…

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"Mormon Church & Bullying" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Does the Mormon Church bully people?

GET A PRINT OF THIS CARTOON!I often get emails and messages from people who have left or are still in the Mormon Church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I’m frequently reminded that, apparently, there are many Mormons, and many in Utah, who follow my blog, read my…

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"Stop Bullying" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Is the church a bully?

CLICK ON CARTOON TO GO TO MY SHOP!Bullies intimidate. They shame. They make people afraid. They like to control people. Often it’s because of their own deep-seated insecurities. Not all individual, local churches are this way. But it’s enough of a problem that many people think it’s safe enough to…

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"Not Safe for Kids" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

The Church is Not Safe for Kids

Last week I was contacted by a mother. She wanted to know if I would help publicize their story. It’s about her daughter who had been raped by her biological father since she was a very young girl. The girl confided in her church leaders at the McMinnville Church of…

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"Church PTSD" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Are you suffering from church PTSD?

Are you suffering from church PTSD? I know I did! It’s wise to not underestimate the profound affects negative experiences in the church can have on you. There are degrees of intensity of PTSD, but PTSD is PTSD! Agreed: Not everyone who leaves the church suffers from PTSD. Agreed: Many…

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"Control Yourselves" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

when control doesn’t feel like control but still is control

[Like this cartoon? Buy a high-quality print for just $19 HERE!]I was at a conference once where a leader was there with many members of his community. I watched with fascination as he and his people claimed that he was the least controlling leader they’d ever known. But their love,…

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"Insidious Abuse" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

when abuse goes underground

[Like this cartoon? Get a print for just $19 HERE.]In my experience and observation, often when an organization, church, or leader gets accused of being abusive, rather than offering a genuine apology, a kind of non-apology is provided and the abuse becomes more insidious. We are very ingenious at continuing…

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"Chewed Up Spit Out" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Did the church chew you up and spit you out?

Has this happened to you? It’s happened to me. More than once! Why do I still believe in the church? Because I believe in community. People have the right to gather together around a commonality. Love deserves company. Fellowship is good. How can we gather in healthy ways? That’s my…

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"Rod and Staff" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

abuse in the church of entitled leaders

I read a lot about religion, theology, and philosophy, and I’ve come to a conclusion on what may be the most serious problem with religious leadership today: Entitlement! For some religious leaders, this manifests in two ways: 1. They feel they have the right to do with their people what they…

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