"Expectations" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Your Growth Must Lead to Your Freedom

Probably the best book on marriage is David Schnarch’s, Passionate Marriage (a must read). Here’s just one quote: “Crucibles are always interlocking. When one partner goes into his crucible, the other partner goes into hers– or gets out of the marriage.” What this means… and I’ve seen it over and over again……

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Sophia "Bridge" drawing by nakedpastor David Hayward

in order to be free you might have to burn some bridges

[You can buy Sophia original drawings, or Sophia reproduction prints, or my book The Liberation of Sophia.] I’m having a Sophia Art Show and Reading at St. Stephen’s University tonight. I hope to see some of you there. Here’s the meditation from this drawing, “Bridge”. Do you relate? This was…

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sophia escape drawing by nakedpastor david hayward

Envision, Plan and Make Your Escape

Envision, Plan and Make Your Escape Our absolutely unbelievably amazing online community, The Lasting Supper, is entirely made up of escape artists: people who’ve escaped or are in the process of escaping from unhealthy churches, relationships, jobs and other unhappy situations. (I warmly invite you to come and join us.)…

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freedom isn’t a bigger cage

We can go on making our small choices, ‘reinventing ourselves’ thoroughly, on condition that these choices do not seriously disturb the social and ideological balance (Zizek). There is a difference between “formal freedom” and “actual freedom“. Formal freedom is when we are permitted to make choices within a given system…

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