venn diagram for spiritual abuse

I have been in and observed spiritually abusive situations. I think this diagram generally represents most of them. I can identify with all of them. You? I have entrusted myself, willingly, to leaders I admired. Even loved. I wanted to serve them, help them, and further their ministry. I believed…

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the old bait and switch and spiritual abuse

In unhealthy relationships, the tactics used to keep you are not the same as those used to get you. It’s the old bait and switch! This happens not only in business: “What are all these hidden costs? You never told me about those!” It happens in romantic relationships: “I can’t…

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welcome to target Christians

Everyone knows how it feels to be objectified. Everyone. But some are more objectified than others, like women and those of the LGBTQ community for example. The church, when it succumbs to the subtle lure of power, objectifies people generally. People become commodities. Numbers. Members. Objects. They become something to…

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blind and deaf to spiritual abuse

(Those receiving this in your inbox, click on either title “Blind and Deaf” and it will take you to the nakedpastor site.) I frequently get really sweet emails from really sweet people who say they’ve been in a perfect church their whole lives and have never seen anything I talk…

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Sophia’s Back

Don’t say, “Oh, poor Sophia!” She doesn’t need anyone’s pity. She’s one strong female. These are battle scars from a personal war she’s won. She’s a strong survivor. She’s liberated and liberal. She boasts about her wounds. She uses her tender but tough heart, her smart and sharp mind, and…

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