Trusting Your Instincts: When It's Time to Leave a Church

After I left the ministry in 2010, I didn’t go to any church for a long time. Now I will occasionally visit one.


I attended this one church a few times. A visiting pastor preached.

While he was preaching, I felt myself pushing myself back in my chair physically trying to back away from him.

He was so authoritative, domineering, and even bullying.

Actually, it reminded me of my many years in the Pentecostal church. That kind of preaching was the norm. I thought I’d gotten away from that. But, no, and this was a very liberal church.

As soon as someone starts talking to you badly like a child… condescendingly, correctively, coercively… it’s time to go.

Related Spiritual Abuse Blog Posts

Here are a list of other blog posts I've written on Spiritual Abuse.

What is Spiritual Abuse? And how to recognize when it is happening to you.
10 Reasons Why The Church Is The Perfect Culture For Abuse
5 Steps to Recover from Spiritual Abuse
10 Questions You Can Ask A Church To See If It's Spiritually Abusive

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May I ask what made you leave ministry in 2010?


I appreciate your writing and pictures.

Chaz Denny

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