Take your time to process your pain from church hurt.
"Process the Pain" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward
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For some people, when they leave the church, it's no big deal.
But for others it is.
I can speak to this from my own experience. I invested everything
into the church. It was my family. I was deeply connected, deeply involved, deeply committed, and deeply in love.
Then the day came when I realized I could no longer be true to myself and stay. The pressure to leave was undeniable. Even though I initiated the step to leave, it felt like a rejection. No one said go. But the signals were all there that I was no longer welcomed, especially if I were to continue down the path I was walking.
Even though I did this six years ago, in 2010, once in a while the pain still surfaces. My theory is that we process pain at the level we can cope with. Then it goes on hold for a while until we are capable of dealing with the pain at deeper levels. Like layers of an onion... with tears included.
The other day I had a dream that made it very clear to me that I have yet another
layer of pain to process. It's hard and sad work, but I know it's necessary if I want to reach higher levels of happiness.
If you know exactly what I'm talking about, come join others just like us at The Lasting Supper
. I'll personally make you feel welcomed.