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This drawing is inspired by the Ouroboros Snake... of the snake eating its own tail.
What came first? The chicken or the egg? What came first? The thug or the theology? I read Tony Jones' thoughts on Mark Driscoll.
Jones has always admired Driscoll, maybe envies him a little, wants the best for him, believes he can be redeemed, and suggests that things can be restored.
What I found most interesting though is that Jones believes the problem with Driscoll is theological.
That is, did Driscoll become the focus of concern because of his theology? Or was it because of his behavior?
I'm concerned that Jones' post reflects the refusal of the church to understand spiritual abuse. It neglects the pathology of its abusive leaders. I don't think this is being fair to the victims or the perpetrators of spiritual abuse. People are victims of not just a bad theology, but a pathological cruelty.
I don't think Driscoll's theology made this happen. Driscoll "embraced" his toxic version of theology because it aligned with his moral compass. It fit his personality. It worked for him to achieve his goals. Then it manifested the worst in him. Then he continued to develop his toxic theology in order to make more room for his pathological behavior. Mars Hill Church too.
Jones' sentence, "It could have happened to any of us." is true, because I believe we all participate in this dynamic. Theology is our creation. It is a reflection of our drives and desires.
Then, not satisfied to only be the product of our drives and desires, it also becomes the producer of them. Theology is a vicious cycle of our desperate need to understand and control our universe.
Step into this cycle at any point and you can see that we are both the root and fruit of our theology and pathology.
And yes, it spins out of control by manifesting itself in toxic, controlling, and abusive behavior. Nothing can be done about bad theology because of free thought and speech.
But we can do something when this manifests itself in bad behavior. Cruel theology is a nuisance. Cruel behavior is unacceptable.
When Driscoll thinks bully to his people, we can say please stop. But when he actually bullies people, we can step in and say you will stop now!
I don't think this is a theological issue. I think it is a pathological one. Not just for Driscoll and Jones, but for the entire church.
If we would be healed, our theology would take care of itself.
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Julie, thanks. David, thanks. It feels as if the world got just a tiny bit more balanced this morning.
Ooops, part 2.
The point being made is that Doug and others don’t want to hear about it because they know it exists and seeing their actions in a mirror makes them uncomfortable.
Interestingly enough, very recently John Hagee said similar in tone as Doug may have more subtly stated in his comments here:
“I am tired of hearing about race. If you come to the cross, you’re all brothers and sisters.” In short, he doesn’t want to hear jack shit about racism because CHRISTIANITY SOLVES EVERYTHING IT CAUSES.
(not implying that only Christianity caused racism, but it sure has helped)
Thank you, all. This has absolutely zero do to with divorce. The 6 Emergent Leaders who gathered in Dallas, Texas while on a book tour stop and who “through hours of prayer and discernment” diagnosed me without ever saying a word to me, and came up with an “action plan,” which by the way, only he whom shall not be named was present for, and I was in Minnesota with the kids. A church person once told me that is a real no-no in “spiritual discernment” etiquette to spiritually discern about someone, without them present! So, poor Mark was sent on a mission to fly to Minnesota and get me to pack a bag and leave with him to a mental hospital. My sister was there and said, “Get the F*and% out of this house.” My kids were taken by another Emergent leader for 10 terrifying hours, I had no idea where they were, or if they were ever coming back. When it was clear the big plan was an epic fail….Mark flew back on book tour and my kids were returned home. So, would any of the 6 like to apologize for just that?! How about just that day?! No?! Too much? How about just the spiritual abuse of “discerning” someone without them present? I’m sure you 6 are incapable of even doing that. So, when I had the psychological evaluation I went back to the 6 expecting full apologies and I THOUGHT they would ask the mentally ill leader to step down from leadership. No such thing. I was shunned, shamed and silenced. Doug said, “I don’t want to read it. Do not send it to me.”