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This drawing is inspired by the Ouroboros Snake... of the snake eating its own tail.
What came first? The chicken or the egg? What came first? The thug or the theology? I read Tony Jones' thoughts on Mark Driscoll.
Jones has always admired Driscoll, maybe envies him a little, wants the best for him, believes he can be redeemed, and suggests that things can be restored.
What I found most interesting though is that Jones believes the problem with Driscoll is theological.
That is, did Driscoll become the focus of concern because of his theology? Or was it because of his behavior?
I'm concerned that Jones' post reflects the refusal of the church to understand spiritual abuse. It neglects the pathology of its abusive leaders. I don't think this is being fair to the victims or the perpetrators of spiritual abuse. People are victims of not just a bad theology, but a pathological cruelty.
I don't think Driscoll's theology made this happen. Driscoll "embraced" his toxic version of theology because it aligned with his moral compass. It fit his personality. It worked for him to achieve his goals. Then it manifested the worst in him. Then he continued to develop his toxic theology in order to make more room for his pathological behavior. Mars Hill Church too.
Jones' sentence, "It could have happened to any of us." is true, because I believe we all participate in this dynamic. Theology is our creation. It is a reflection of our drives and desires.
Then, not satisfied to only be the product of our drives and desires, it also becomes the producer of them. Theology is a vicious cycle of our desperate need to understand and control our universe.
Step into this cycle at any point and you can see that we are both the root and fruit of our theology and pathology.
And yes, it spins out of control by manifesting itself in toxic, controlling, and abusive behavior. Nothing can be done about bad theology because of free thought and speech.
But we can do something when this manifests itself in bad behavior. Cruel theology is a nuisance. Cruel behavior is unacceptable.
When Driscoll thinks bully to his people, we can say please stop. But when he actually bullies people, we can step in and say you will stop now!
I don't think this is a theological issue. I think it is a pathological one. Not just for Driscoll and Jones, but for the entire church.
If we would be healed, our theology would take care of itself.
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David, you are my hero for hosting this most excellent conversation. More light and fire, Holy Spirit!
One of the things I highly value, and I wish the church would, is mutual passion for truth and the well-being of all people, rather than its own security or agenda. The comments on this post are an indication to me that voices have been silenced, which builds up enormous pressure in the silenced, and once they find a venue where they can speak their minds, they do. I’m glad this can happen here. My hope is that rather than protect ourselves we lay that aside and put the concern of all the people first. Truth, freedom and justice has to win. Eventually. Mars Hill is an example. And probably not the last.
Wow. Shit’s getting real.
Laura——It is really scary standing up to an NPD! The rage!! They are cunning and will go to the ends of the earth to come out smelling like roses. “Crazy campaigns,” whatever it takes. The “gas-lighting” is further scary stuff. 12 years of mental abuse I endured. Questioning your own reality. The sad part is they never get help or get better. I want that for my kids. They refuse to look at their stuff. A lot is being written about NPD lately, and I think in time these people will be put back in their cages. People are getting better at calling it out. Take them out of leadership! They can do set up and clean up of the church spaghetti dinners. Education and awareness are the first step. Knowing the signs. Speaking out. Refusing to back down. I know I am not the only person to be run over by these people, but I can say this….they got the wrong marine! I will never shut up until I get my five more apologies.
funny how legal and spiritual got flopped around as to who gets protection from whom… the amount of isolating and silencing that happens when a person faces someone who apparently has g-d’s voice, and has managed to find a way to completely… destroy any hope of good.