Why Your Wounds Are Yours to Share

Your wounds are yours. It doesn't matter who inflicted them, who gave them to you. They're now yours. 

I got some abusive emails from a pastor. I shared them with my support. He found out I shared them. He was offended that I would share his emails with people. He abused me. I showed my wounds. He felt I had no right to share what he believed wasn't mine, but his!

It's like shooting someone with an arrow and coming to ask for it back. No way! It's mine now.

Your wounds are yours. Don't be afraid of embarrassing your aggressor or abuser. They threw the ball, lobbed the missile, shot the arrow, into your body! Now it's yours. When a church and its leadership abuses you, they have given you something that is now totally yours. Share your story.

It's still shocking to me when I see all the maneuvers to silence people from sharing their experiences and showing their wounds.

All kinds of reasons are given like;

• It's embarrassing
• It's not helpful
• It will compromise the cause
• It's not glorifying to Christ
• It maligns the Church
• There's no corroboration
• It's too ugly and inappropriate
• It's risky for you to do so; etcetera.

I do understand that sometimes it's not safe to share your wounds. I emphasize: always make sure you are safe first. 

Vulnerability Is Key To The Healing Journey

Vulnerability can feel like exposing yourself to more harm, especially after trauma, but vulnerability is an essential step towards healing. When you share your story, you reclaim your power and begin to break down the walls that trauma has built around you. The wounds might be yours, but embracing vulnerability allows you to transform them into a source of strength. Remember, healing starts with owning your truth, even when it's hard.