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A man uses a Bible to beat up another man. The beaten man says, “At what point can I call this abusive?”
We’re talking about being abused but not realizing it.
I’ve spoken with women who describe a situation and then ask, “Was I raped?” I try not to look at them with dismay because yes absolutely they were raped. Sometimes by their own husbands!
The same with spiritual abuse: sometimes we don’t realize we’re being abused.
Why? It happened to me, so I came up with a theory I hope will help you.
We call it dissociation.
What are we dissociated from when we are being abused and don’t realize it?
When women share with me their stories of what was to me obviously rape and when people share their stories of what was to me obviously spiritual abuse, I always ask, “What did your guts tell you?”
When they respond, “I was numb!” or “Something was off!”, I say “That’s all you need! It was abuse.”
Do you relate?