spiritual abuse spreads with our disbelief in it

"Disbelief in Abuse" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward
“Disbelief in Abuse” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

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The famous Nazi war criminal Josef Mengele said, ““The more we do to you, the less you seem to believe we are doing it.”

This is true for spiritual abuse. I believe it is rampant. I also believe that disbelief in it is rampant. These are related.

I’m going on vacation for a week. I’m not taking my computer. I need the rest. We haven’t had a real vacation since Lisa started nursing school over seven years ago, so we’re taking a much needed break. In all my years of blogging, I’ve never taken a day off that I can remember. This is new. There’ll be no new posts for a week. But I’m okay with that. I’ll be back in full swing next week.

One of the things I plan on doing is re-energizing myself for the next part of my journey. I am more and more certain that the real problem in the church today is the abuse of power and its privileges. I used to think that when I cartooned or wrote about spiritual abuse that I was touching a nerve. Now I think it is the nerve. The problem at the core of our communities is not theology, it is power. I claim that the principalities and powers Paul spoke of have full control over our communities. They feed off our ignorance of them. Our disbelief and naïveté empower them.

I feel that my time away is going to help me focus on this, get some clarity on it, and figure out a way to address it more directly when I get back.

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11 Replies to “spiritual abuse spreads with our disbelief in it”

  1. David, have a great break!

    And yes, if recent events are any guide, spiritual abuse is the rotting flesh around the nerve, in the root canal that the church requires.

  2. May you receive all the clarity, boldness, and strength you are seeking and need. Praying for you and Lisa.

  3. Enjoy your long overdue vacation! May you rest well, feel refreshed and enjoy each other’s company without any distraction.

  4. Enjoy your time away, your refresh, your wife, your thoughts, your surroundings, your God. We’ll be here when you get back!

  5. I am not sure there is anything more wounding than not being believed but the abuser is automatically believed. For many, it can be worse than the abuse because it simply reabuses and makes any healing that much harder and longer.

    The bubble of disbelief. What a great way to describe it.

  6. I think power is a problem, but is not our theology which grants and excuses power? Just the teaching that women should be subject to men is promotion of abuse.

  7. What I am hearing is the need to be aware of abuse and be as a rock when it happens, becoming as hard and unyielding as those that obstinately continue with misconduct.

    Nevertheless I think there is hope in the midst of all of this, and though there are the principalities and powers that Paul talked of I don’t think what control they have cannot be reclaimed.

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