"Trying to Help" cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward
One of the most uncomfortable moments in my life
is when Lisa wants to talk with me about an issue in our relationship. I hate it because it means I probably have to go through a period of
- intense self-reflection,
- brutal honesty,
- humble repentance, and
- determined restoration.
It is painful
if we want to grow in healthy ways and make our relationship better.
There are a lot of people who would rather not go through this process.
So they don't. Their relationships either stagnate into a vacuous wasteland or they break up.
It's the very same with the church!
What some people interpret as impertinent questions
leading to unnecessary discomfort
and unfortunate disunity
is actually an attempt to improve our individual lives
and the community
we desire to share.
Those remarks inside the church... I've heard them all. Often. Frequently.
The truth is I care about the spiritual health of people. I also care about the spiritual health of communities.
My observation is that people are concluding that in order to take care of their own spiritual lives it is necessary for them to leave the spiritual communities because they are at enmity with one another.
It shouldn't be this way, but for many, it is.
I would like to do my part to repair this.
my community The Lasting Supper
where we try to do this as best we can online.
the story of Sophia
who made the choice to escape in order to thrive!