Welcome to Deconstruction. It can be lonely at times. But I claim this is a good thing.

Sometimes, the community we leave behind isn't good for us anymore. It might have been fine for a time. But no longer!

It's time to venture out on our own and find our own way.

This is what spiritual independence means.

It means no longer being dependent on others to show you the way.
It means no longer being codependent with others in toxic relationships.

It does mean learning how to claim your own agency and your autonomy to be self-determining. To be the captain of your own ship and the master of your life and the one driving who you are and how you are in the world.

Scary at first.

But after a while you get used to it.

And... you find others who get you because they too are spiritually independent and respect that in others.

True story! When I left the church in 2010, the loneliness was real. But Lisa and I intentionally tried to start making new friends, restoring older friendships, and taking advantage of meeting new people, including online, who love and appreciate us as our authentic selves.

And you can too.

I appreciate your presence in my life. I don't take it for granted. You allow me to be me. I allow you to be you. And together we learn what and how love is.

I love you all.