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This drawing is inspired by the Ouroboros Snake... of the snake eating its own tail.
What came first? The chicken or the egg? What came first? The thug or the theology? I read Tony Jones' thoughts on Mark Driscoll.
Jones has always admired Driscoll, maybe envies him a little, wants the best for him, believes he can be redeemed, and suggests that things can be restored.
What I found most interesting though is that Jones believes the problem with Driscoll is theological.
That is, did Driscoll become the focus of concern because of his theology? Or was it because of his behavior?
I'm concerned that Jones' post reflects the refusal of the church to understand spiritual abuse. It neglects the pathology of its abusive leaders. I don't think this is being fair to the victims or the perpetrators of spiritual abuse. People are victims of not just a bad theology, but a pathological cruelty.
I don't think Driscoll's theology made this happen. Driscoll "embraced" his toxic version of theology because it aligned with his moral compass. It fit his personality. It worked for him to achieve his goals. Then it manifested the worst in him. Then he continued to develop his toxic theology in order to make more room for his pathological behavior. Mars Hill Church too.
Jones' sentence, "It could have happened to any of us." is true, because I believe we all participate in this dynamic. Theology is our creation. It is a reflection of our drives and desires.
Then, not satisfied to only be the product of our drives and desires, it also becomes the producer of them. Theology is a vicious cycle of our desperate need to understand and control our universe.
Step into this cycle at any point and you can see that we are both the root and fruit of our theology and pathology.
And yes, it spins out of control by manifesting itself in toxic, controlling, and abusive behavior. Nothing can be done about bad theology because of free thought and speech.
But we can do something when this manifests itself in bad behavior. Cruel theology is a nuisance. Cruel behavior is unacceptable.
When Driscoll thinks bully to his people, we can say please stop. But when he actually bullies people, we can step in and say you will stop now!
I don't think this is a theological issue. I think it is a pathological one. Not just for Driscoll and Jones, but for the entire church.
If we would be healed, our theology would take care of itself.
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Lost voice (found here) you didn’t let them win. I know those people and they are not happy. It is not possible to be happy carrying on through life with a false self. Trampling over people to get to the next rung. You have already won, not them. You are here. Who cares if you deleted all the evidence. We believe you! We are holding your story with you. I am not really familiar with Outlaw Preachers but I know I reached out to Nadia Bolz-Weber and she hung up on me. Silly me thought surely a feminist will care about what I have to say! They didn’t care to discern some serious and real information. Aren’t they Pastors? What Pastor hangs up on you? What Pastor hears real and serious information and won’t email you back….does nothing about it?! I think that is highly suspect.
@Bill Kinnon: Thank you very much.
Sadly, artistglover, there appears to be an awful lot of fear – perhaps of/for litigation, reputation, livelihood, movement, or even identity.
I would encourage everyone, but particularly those who follow Jesus’ words:
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
“Perfect love drives out all fear.”
And maybe this thread isn’t a safe communication mechanism for some. That’s ok.
I hope they find a way that feels comfortable for them.
@Nathan: Thanks for responding and, most especially, for correcting my misconceptions about what you were saying.
I’ve been observing from a distance, but I’m really in SHOCK at the number of people who have condemned this thread. It appears that all of this could have been avoided if numerous opportunities to answer emails and questions had not been ignored. Besides, mediation is ALWAYS a wonderful thing. It’s ugly and messy and no fun, but truth is coming out, misconceptions are being cleared up, and healing is taking place!
Resolution is the goal. That’s truly been made clear by Julie’s quickness to forgive those who have apologized. So to all those saying your name and reputation have been tarnished on this thread: get on here and hash it out! Leaving the thread does nothing. Clear the record and work out the miscommunications. Restoration can be reached.