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A child in the backseat of a car says to his mom who is driving, “Mom, since we stopped going to church you’ve gotten really good at swearing!” HOW TO CHANGE IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS I’m often asked how we deconstructed in front of our kids. I need to be clear: I don’t consider deconstruction an event, but a lifestyle.  Deconstruction isn’t necessarily an ah-hah moment where we jump tracks to another one.  Rather, it’s living a life committed to dismantling our conditioning. It’s a dying daily. It’s a behold we are a new creation daily. So our kids never...

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Cartoon Description: A pastor says to a woman he’s counseling, “Yes you’re allowed to grow. No you’re not allowed to change.” THE DEATHS AND RESURRECTIONS OF DECONSTRUCTION Years ago when I was meditating on dying to self, I was vexed by the question, “But if I crucify my flesh, who is the ‘I’ who crucifies, who is the ‘I’ who is crucified, and who is the ‘I’ that remains?” Can’t answer that question. The pastor in this cartoon knows if we truly grow we will change. The only way he can maintain control is if he allows the illusion of...

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A sheep says to his sheep friends, "Oh no guys I'm questioning my beliefs!" In the next frame they've all fainted and he says "April Fools!" The biggest inhibitor for most of us questioning our beliefs is what others are going to think of us. I've always suggested this: imagine if everyone around you from your parents and siblings and family and friends and everyone was 100% supportive of you being intellectually curious and encouraged questions?  Would you do it? Would you be intellectually curious? Would you entertain questions? Would you be more inclined to explore what the truth was outside...

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A couple are driving down the road. A question mark is on the side of the road hitchhiking. The woman says to the man driving, "Don't stop. He looks dangerous!" Stopping to pick up questions and invite it into your space is dangerous. I had a friend who picked up a hitchhiker. The hitchhiker held him at knifepoint, stole all his stuff and his car and left him on the side of the road. I'm not talking about that kind of dangerous. I'm talking about how questions can make every map you've ever trusted seem antiquated and not so accurate. They might...

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  A man watches a woman getting on a subway train to "Deconstruction". She looks concerned when he says, "Good luck!" THE DECONSTRUCTION TRAIN The man would like to say to the woman getting on the Deconstruction Train: "Are you sure you want to do that? Because, you know, once you get on that train there’s no getting off until you reach your destination. Which doesn’t exist. Because the journey IS the destination!” This is one of the greatest hurdles for many of us who have deconstructed or are deconstructing or will deconstruct. There’s no destination! “Truth is a pathless...

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