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Description: A woman looks at a map called “Your Map Through Deconstruction”. It is a huge blank page. YOUR MAP THROUGH DECONSTRUCTION There is no map for your deconstruction. If someone tries to offer you one, refuse it. Here’s why: I claim deconstruction is all about spiritual independence. It’s about taking responsibility for your own spiritual life, becoming the master of your destiny and the captain of your ship.  It’s about exploring and discovering your own way of being spiritual.  It’s about embarking on your own inner journey to find your own space. *Explorers in any field don’t have maps or...

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Description: A chicken and a duck swim. The duck says to the chicken, “Hey, you can’t swim!” The duck is surprised when the chicken flies away. DON’T BELIEVE THE LIMITING BELIEFS OF OTHERS Chickens can’t swim. Or fly! It’s one thing to overcome your own limiting beliefs about yourself.It’s another to overcome the limiting beliefs others have about you. When I left the ministry in 2010 that I had a lot to learn about myself… my gifts, my skills, my talents, my creativity, my business acumen and money smarts. It was like the university of life. I had to adapt quickly...

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Description: A pastor inside a church points to a woman who left and he says to those still with him, “Good riddance! She was so uncontrollable anyway!” BE UNCONTROLLABLE! I’m uncontrollable. What I mean is I do not like being controlled and so I do things to escape being controlled. I was a compliant child growing up. Even as a teen I was compliant. But underneath I was planning my escape. I did when I was 18 when I went to college. But it’s interesting because there have been times I’ve ended up being controlled by an authoritative, charismatic leader. ...

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LEARN HOW TO DISAPPOINT PEOPLE  A necessary part of spiritual growth is knowing you will disappoint people. Which means you will fail their expectations.  The Church taught me that I should never cause people to stumble. It’s okay to disappoint the world. Just don’t disappoint the Church and those in authority. I never really disappointed my parents. I never really disappointed the Church. I never disappointed anybody.  But I started disappointing others when I was 27. A spiritual crisis changed me. I knew I was going to disappoint their hopes for me. Not because I wanted to, but because I had to...

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YOU AND YOUR PARTNER DON’T BELIEVE THE SAME WAY ANYMORE When Lisa and I first met in Bible College I asked her a series of questions to make sure she checked out.   “Do you believe in substitutionary atonement?” “Were you baptized? Full immersion or sprinkling?” “Did you speak in tongues when you were filled with the Spirit?”“Will you recognize me as head of the household and submit to me?” NO. I. DIDN’T! The first thing I noticed when I first saw her was a strikingly beautiful woman.  Her dark hair, skin and body in her tight jeans. Jeepers! When I finally got...

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