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Description: Jesus says to an upset woman, “Well dammit Julie have you tried swearing that shit’s real!” Why Swearing Can Be Good: Do you think there is a book in Heaven with a list of words you aren’t allowed to say? Have you discovered that research shows that swearing can actually help you? Here are some good reasons for swearing: Release: Swearing releases pressure. Expressing our emotions can be more effective with swearing. Studies reveal swearing decreases physical and emotional pain. Freedom: People raised in controlling environments find swearing an effective expression of their new freedom. Liberated from a culture...

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Description: A mom and dad are with their son. She says, “Honey, daddy and I are questioning our beliefs.” He responds, “Well, it’s about time!” DECONSTRUCTING AND YOUR KIDS I’m asked how we deconstructed in front of our kids. Deconstruction isn’t an event. It’s a lifestyle.  It’s living a life committed to constantly questioning and dismantling our conditioning. So our kids never witnessed us freaking out about beliefs. Instead, what they saw, and still see, are adults committed to growth. They saw people curious about what was true and fearless to pursue it. They watched us develop, progress, and grow....

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Description: A woman looks at a map called “Your Map Through Deconstruction”. It is a huge blank page. YOUR MAP THROUGH DECONSTRUCTION There is no map for your deconstruction. If someone tries to offer you one, refuse it. Here’s why: I claim deconstruction is all about spiritual independence. It’s about taking responsibility for your own spiritual life, becoming the master of your destiny and the captain of your ship.  It’s about exploring and discovering your own way of being spiritual.  It’s about embarking on your own inner journey to find your own space. *Explorers in any field don’t have maps or...

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Description: A chicken and a duck swim. The duck says to the chicken, “Hey, you can’t swim!” The duck is surprised when the chicken flies away. DON’T BELIEVE THE LIMITING BELIEFS OF OTHERS Chickens can’t swim. Or fly! It’s one thing to overcome your own limiting beliefs about yourself.It’s another to overcome the limiting beliefs others have about you. When I left the ministry in 2010 that I had a lot to learn about myself… my gifts, my skills, my talents, my creativity, my business acumen and money smarts. It was like the university of life. I had to adapt quickly...

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Description: A pastor inside a church points to a woman who left and he says to those still with him, “Good riddance! She was so uncontrollable anyway!” BE UNCONTROLLABLE! I’m uncontrollable. What I mean is I do not like being controlled and so I do things to escape being controlled. I was a compliant child growing up. Even as a teen I was compliant. But underneath I was planning my escape. I did when I was 18 when I went to college. But it’s interesting because there have been times I’ve ended up being controlled by an authoritative, charismatic leader. ...

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