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LEARN HOW TO DISAPPOINT PEOPLE  A necessary part of spiritual growth is knowing you will disappoint people. Which means you will fail their expectations.  The Church taught me that I should never cause people to stumble. It’s okay to disappoint the world. Just don’t disappoint the Church and those in authority. I never really disappointed my parents. I never really disappointed the Church. I never disappointed anybody.  But I started disappointing others when I was 27. A spiritual crisis changed me. I knew I was going to disappoint their hopes for me. Not because I wanted to, but because I had to...

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YOU AND YOUR PARTNER DON’T BELIEVE THE SAME WAY ANYMORE When Lisa and I first met in Bible College I asked her a series of questions to make sure she checked out.   “Do you believe in substitutionary atonement?” “Were you baptized? Full immersion or sprinkling?” “Did you speak in tongues when you were filled with the Spirit?”“Will you recognize me as head of the household and submit to me?” NO. I. DIDN’T! The first thing I noticed when I first saw her was a strikingly beautiful woman.  Her dark hair, skin and body in her tight jeans. Jeepers! When I finally got...

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Description: A huge scary looking deep water fish has his glowing bait out in front of him luring in an unsuspecting fish. The bait is a heart. EVANGELISM How many of you thought you were signing up for love and you got something else instead? How many of you heard, "Come join us at the table!" only to discover that you were the meal? Happened to me.Happened to you? I question evangelism. Yes. In most if not all of its forms. We really must renegotiate the idea. Because now to assume your beliefs are superior to another's and that you...

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Description: A man preaches, “I’m sorry people. There’s been a change. I can  longer help you find. But I promise I can help you seek.” I’D RATHER HELP YOU SEEK THAN HELP YOU FIND I love love love this cartoon. Because he’s me. This is something I would say. This is something I do. I would much rather help you seek than help you find. Why? Because helping you find implies that I know where something is and I’m going to lead you to it… like I hold some kind of supremacy and authority over your life. But helping you...

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Description: A man warns a group of people that they need to be careful because deconstruction can be a slippery slope. Later we see the group of people sliding down "The Deconstruction Slippery-Slopey Slippy Slidy" and having so much fun. The other day one of my online friends shared how someone had warned her about the slippery slope of deconstruction and thought it would make a great cartoon. I agreed, so here it is. Thank you! But it's true.  I was warned about the dangers of questioning my beliefs and deconstruction. But I must admit I've never been happier and...

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